APE – the Asperger Parenting Experience

The Life and Times of one Asperger Parent

About Patrick

Thanks for visiting this blog. I have found in my years that many parents of children with AS use the Internet to reach out and make sure they are not the only parents in the world who are seemingly unable to cope with the ordeals of being an Asperger parent.

I have two boys and my older son has AS. He’s perfectly delightful when he’s having his way and playing with his little brother and doing things that kids do. But, as all AS parents either know or find out, the slightest snag in his day brings the universe into a black hole from which there is often not an easy escape.

Yes, I live the same stories that so many other parents experience, and I am proud to do so. AS children are often mistaken early on as overly shy or just eccentric; behavioral and developmental pediatricians are able to distinguish shyness from an actual problem with a complete evaluation. It’s a myth that AS cannot be found in children until they near 10 years old. My older son is 4, and his case is clear, though overall it is considered mild.

What is the purpose of this blog? If nothing else, it is a place for parents of children with AS to commiserate. It is my hope that by sharing my experiences, someone will feel that they are not alone as an Asperger parent, and that someone else is willing to listen.

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6 Responses to “About Patrick”

  1. My son with Asperger’s is 10 and my daughter with Asperger’s is 7. When my son was your child’s age, it was a hard time. In some ways, they get better, actually. Of course, I’m about to see all of our efforts go down the toilet as preteen adolescense hits. The “attitude” is the worst. However, there’s so much that is special about my AS children that every day I wonder what gift they’ll give to the world. Your son is a gift. Let’s hope as parents we can make that gift shine.

  2. 🙂

  3. Jen said

    My 8 year old son was just diagnosed with AS and has been on meds for ADHD since 4 and a half. Reading your blog gives me hope and makes me feel less alone. I love the idea of a prize vault and I think my kids would respond well to that(4 of them including the AS son, my 2nd of the 4). I am just glad to read other stories and ways of dealing with issues. thanks!

  4. Patrick said

    thanks for your comment Jen. You’ll find that there is quite a community of parents talking about AS.

  5. Marissa said

    Hello, I just found your blog. And I have only read a few of your posts but am in the total same position as you are!!!

    Your statement above “I have two boys and my older son has AS. He’s perfectly delightful when he’s having his way and playing with his little brother and doing things that kids do. But, as all AS parents either know or find out, the slightest snag in his day brings the universe into a black hole from which there is often not an easy escape. ”

    This speaks to me volumes. This is exactly, carbon copy of what I am going through. My oldest, 5 year old, son was diagnosed with AS and I have a younger son who is 3. I go through this everyday. Now knowing what he has, I am so glad to find your site and get help. Thanks so much!

  6. Deborah said

    My daughter is 16 and was just recognized as having AS. She has manifested behavior issues forever, but because she is very intelligent and her condition is mild, most adults just wrote her behavior off to laziness, willfulness, or bad parenting (one teacher accused me of being either “too nice” or not strict enough because she continued to have tantrums into elementary school). Recent circumstances threw her into a clinical depression and during her medication evaluation for the depression we also were able to uncover the underlying AS. I wish we had fully understood this syndrome sooner — it explains a lot.

    It appears that most of the interactions on this blog involve younger children, but if anyone has information relevant to teenagers, high school and college application, I would much appreciate it. Thanks.

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